Marriage Musings
Marriage is a big deal. After all, it’s a lifetime commitment to another human being. But it doesn’t make you successful or better. Many people think that once you’re married, you’ve reached the pinnacle of success. Obviously, this couldn’t be further from the truth. True success is living a happy life and having a beautiful death. But then again, success can be defined differently by each individual.
That being said, I’d like to share my views on marriage.
During my teen years and well into my twenties, I was always given marriage advice from various people.
Some told me to get married young and others told me to wait.
Growing up, I always thought that getting married young was a good thing. Sure, it may be great for some to get married young but maybe it wasn’t great for me. So I’m glad it didn’t happen until later on.
I got married when I was 24, after most of my friends had tied the knot and after a few of them had kids.
For me, this worked out well. I had finally completed my studies and I had started to work. Also, I was able to concentrate on myself and learn more about myself. At 24, I felt ready to get married.
Marriage isn’t easy. It’s what we’re all told all the time. It’s not always a bed of roses or cups of delicious morning coffees. Marriage can be a challenge. It’s a huge adjustment and sometimes even a massive change in lifestyle. It brings about new responsibilities that you never knew about. I mean, now you have to look after, care and commit to another human being.
But marriage is exactly what you make out of it.
Forget about the notion that marriage is perfect because that’s nothing more than a fallacy fueled by our over active imaginations. No marriage is perfect and no marriage can ever be perfect. Also, stop looking at other people’s marriages and wishing that you had their life. Because you don’t know what happens behind closed doors. If we could just take a moment and start concentrating on our own lives and not the perfect lives that are splattered all over the gram, we’ll be so much more content.
I digress. Marriage is what you make of it. It can be a bed of roses and delicious coffees if you want it to be. But it also can be a bed of thorns and cheap, tasteless coffee. It all depends on YOU.
You first need to make yourself happy before you can make anyone else happy.
Once you’ve found self happiness, you can work on all the other aspects in your life. Your marriage will be happier and your life will be happier.
Your spouse will end up becoming your best friend, the one that shares everything with you and the one you share everything with (yes, even HIS side of the bed because the rest of it is all yours! Haha).
Compromise. Smile. Be understanding.
Remember, marriage can be fun, you just have to be game.
Marriage is a best of roses. After all, it’s a bed of roses with thorns.
